Each one of us is unique.  We have our own way of doing what we need to do.  One person interprets differently from the next.  Happiness is found in so many ways, and can be expressed in as many other ways.  The trap that we sometimes become grappled by, is getting caught in what ‘we are supposed to do’, or matching an expectation that is only an illusion in our minds.  How do we escape the obligation that we blanket ourselves with?
Discover your Recipe of Happiness! Some people, at this moment, would prefer to open up an already made book and choose an established recipe.  That is fine to do… and then eventually make it unique to you. Because eventually you will!  Some people are elated to design, re-design, or create their own recipe, and just needed a catalyst to get started.  Now you may ask, “how do I do this? how do I find my recipe for happiness?”  Well, the answer is easy… live according to your values, and you will find happiness.
The missing step for many is, not knowing what their values are.  These are a part of you, that will be honored, whether it is through negative or positive behavior.  If you are similar in your thinking, that positive behavior is more rewarding than negative, then you are on the right track!  Unfortunately, a lot of people have learned and nurtured negative behavior to honor their values, because they are gaining a result, but not without pain or an emotional ‘cost’ to themselves or someone else.  How would your life change if you could be happy by positively honoring your values (essentially, yourself!) and having that feeling ripple out to others?
Start asking yourself “what are the ingredients to my happiness recipe?”  and see what comes up.  To give a hint, sometimes values are sheep in wolves clothing!  Assertiveness is a value for someone, but may be misinterpreted as someone being a ‘control freak’.  When you can identify your values, then it is easier to see how you are representing them negatively and positively, by how you act or by choices you make.  Now you can begin making choices to honor your values positively, with better, happier results.   Now who wouldn’t want that?
Leah’s recipe of Happiness
Adventure, accomplishment, connection, giving, freedom, recognition, excitement.. of course mixed vigorously with Love!

Living Life In:Creases   How do you want to live yours? ~ Leah